True or False?

1. I am sometimes afraid to do things as well as I know I could.

2. I am prone to worry that I may antagonize others if my work is of superior quality.

3. I never worry about the possibility of being disliked by others for doing well at something.

4. I sometimes do less than my very best so that no one will be threatened.

5. I often worry about the possibility that others will think I am a "show-off."

6. I never worry about the possibility that others may think I work too hard.

7. I would find it nerve-wracking to be regarded as one of the best in my field.

8. I seem to be more anxious after succeeding at something than after failing at something.

9. I would worry that others might think I was peculiar or strange if I were too devoted to my work.

10. I have occasionally deliberately done average or mediocre work in order to make sure that someone else would do better than I.

11. I sometimes worry that others will expect too much of me.

12. I usually set goals for myself that are lower than what I am capable of reaching.

13. I seem to be drawn to activities that are not very challenging.

14. I do not seem to enjoy doing superior work as much as I feel that I should.

15. I do not like competing with others if there is a possibility that hard feelings toward me may develop.

16. I worry about the possibility of being criticized by my friends or associates for being too involved with my own work.

17. I sometimes worry that I may become too well informed for my own good.

18. I never worry about the possibility that friendships may have to be sacrificed in order to accomplish certain tasks or kinds of work.

19. If I were outstanding at something, I would worry about the possibility of others making fun of me behind my back.

20. I do not worry about the personal feelings of others when it comes to getting something important done.

21. I have a tendency to worry that someone may become jealous if I do well at something.

22. I would never worry about the possibility that academic or occupational success might interfere with success in social relationships.

23. I would never worry about the possibility that others might feel uncomfortable or ill at ease around me if I were too competent at something.

24. I have a tendency to fear that others might like me only for what I could do for them due to my competency in a certain field.

25. I am prone to worry that undue pressures would be placed on me if I were to develop considerable competency in some field.

26. I worry that I may become so knowledgeable that others will not like me.

27. I would worry that others might try to take advantage of me if I were extremely competent at something.

28. If I were to do well at something, I would worry that someone might try to undermine my success.

29. I would worry that others might be afraid of me if they felt that I understood people too well.What statements did you answer "true?" What "false?"

Source: Lawrence R. Good and Katherine C. Good. "An objective measure of the motive to avoid success." Psychological Reports, 1973, 33, 1009-1010. Used by permission. F Note #3, 6,18, 20, 22, 23

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              How Comfortable Are You With Yourself?

                               Answer "like me" or" unlike me"

1. I spend a lot of time daydreaming.

2. I am pretty sure of myself.

3. I often wish I were someone else.

4. I’m easy to like.

5. My family and I have a lot of fun together.

6. I never worry about anything.

7. I find it very hard to talk in front of a group.

8. I wish I were younger.

9. There are lots of things about myself I’d change if I could.

10. I can make up my mind without too much trouble.

11. I’m a lot of fun to be with.

12. I get upset easily at home.

13. I always do the right thing.

14. I’m proud of my work.

15. Someone always has to tell me what to do.

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16. It takes me a long time to get used to anything new.

17. I’m often sorry for the things I do.

18. I’m popular with people my own age.

19. My family usually considers my feelings.

20. I’m never unhappy.

21. I’m doing the best work that I can.

22. I give in very easily.

23. I can usually take care of myself.

24. I’m pretty happy.

25. I would rather associate with people younger than me.

26. My family expects too much of me.

27. I like everyone I know.

28. I like to be called on when I am in a group.

29. I understand myself.

30. It’s pretty tough to be me.

31. Things are all mixed up in my life.

32. People usually follow my ideas.

33. No one pays much attention to me at home.

34. I never get scolded.

35. I’m not doing as well at work as I’d like to.

36. I can make up my mind and stick to it.

37. I really don’t like being a man/woman.

38. I have a low opinion of myself.

39. I don’t like to be with other people.

40. There are many times when I’d like to leave home.

41. I’m never shy.

42. I often feel upset.

43. I often feel shamed of myself.

44. I’m not as nice-looking as most people.

45. If I have something to say, I usually say it.

46. People pick on me very often.

47. My family understands me.

48. I always tell the truth.

49. My employer or supervisor makes me feel I’m not good enough.

50. I don’t care what happens to me.

51. I’m a failure.

52. I get upset easily when I am scolded.

53. Most people are better liked than I am.

54. I usually feel as if my family is pushing me.

55. I always know what to say to people.

56. I often get discouraged.

57. Things usually don’t bother me.

58. I can’t be depended on.

Source: Muriel B. Ryden. "An adult version of the Coopersmith Self-Esteem Inventory: Test-retest reliability and social desirability." Psychological Reports, 1978, 43, 1189-1190. Used by permission.

                                        Who Controls Your Fate?

1=Strongly Disagree      2= Disagree Somewhat

3= Slightly Disagree     4= Slightly Agree

5=Agree Somewhat       6= Strongly Agree

1. Whether or not I get to be a leader depends mostly on my ability.

2. To a great extent my life is controlled by accidental happenings.

3. I feel like what happens in my life is mostly determined by powerful people.

4. Whether or not I get into a car accident depends mostly on how good a driver I am.

5. When I make plans, I am almost certain to make them work.

6. Often there is no chance of protecting my personal interests from bad luck.

7. When I get what I want, it’s usually because I’m lucky.

8. Although I might have good ability, I will not be given leadership responsibility without appealing to those in positions of power.

9. How many friends I have depends on how nice a person I am.

10. I have often found that what is going to happen will happen.

11. My life is chiefly controlled by powerful others.

12. Whether or not I get into a car accident is mostly a matter of luck.

13. People like myself have very little chance of protecting our personal interests when they conflict with those of strong pressure groups.

14. It’s not always wise for me to plan too far ahead because many things turn out to be a matter of good or bad fortune.

15. Getting what I want requires pleasing those people above me.

16. Whether or not I get to be a leader depends on whether I’m lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time.

17. If important people were to decide they didn’t like me, I probably wouldn’t make many friends.

18. I can pretty much determine what will happen in my life.

19. I am usually able to protect my personal interests.

20. Whether or not I get into a car accident depends mostly on the other driver.

21. When I get what I want, it’s usually because I worked hard for it.

22. In order to have my plans work, I make sure that they fit in with the desires of people who have power over me.

23. My life is determined by my own actions.

24. It’s chiefly a matter of fate whether or not I have a few friends or many friends.

Source: Hanna Levenson. "Distinctions within the concept of internal-external control: Development of a new scale." Paper presented at American Psychological Association, 1972. Used by permission.

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           How Comfortable Are You in Social Situations?

        1= hardly ever had the thought      2= rarely had the thought

        3= sometimes had the thought      4= often had the thought

                                  5= very often had the thought

1. When I can’t think of anything to say, I can feel myself getting very anxious.

2. I can usually talk to women/men pretty well.

3. I hope I don’t make a fool of myself.

4. I’m beginning to feel more at ease.

5. I’m really afraid of what she’ll/he’ll think of me.

6. No worries, no fears, no anxieties.

7. I’m scared to death.

8. She/He probably won’t be interested in me.

9. Maybe I can put her/him at ease by starting things going.

10. Instead of worrying, I can figure out how best to get to know her/him.

11. I’m not too comfortable meeting women/men, so things are bound to go wrong.

12. What the heck, the worst that can happen is that she/he won’t go for me.

13. She/He may want to talk to me as much as I want to talk to her/him.

14. This will be a good opportunity.

15. If I blow this conversation, I’ll really lost my confidence.

16. What I say will probably sound stupid.

17. What do I have to lose? It’s worth a try.

18. This is an awkward situation, but I can handle it.

19. Wow–I don’t want to do this.

20. It would crush me if she/he didn’t respond to me.

21. I’ve just got to make a good impression on her/him, or I’ll feel terrible.

22. You’re such an inhibited idiot.

23. I’ll probably bomb out anyway.

24. I can handle anything.

25. Even if things don’t go well, it’s no catastrophe.

26. I feel awkward and dumb; she’s/he’s bound to notice.

27. We probably have a lot in common.

28. Maybe we’ll hit it off real well.

29. I wish I could leave and avoid the whole situation.

30. Ah! Throw caution to the wind.

Source: Carol R. Glass, Thomas V. Merluzzi, Joan L. Biever, and Kathryn H. Larson. "The social interaction self-statement test." Cognitive Therapy and Research, 1982, 37-55. Used by permission.

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                        The Romanticism Scale

                     1= Strongly disagree      2= Mildly disagree

                           3= Agree and Disagree Equally

                       4= Mildly agree        5= Strongly agree

1. Love is that strange feeling that overtakes one person on account of another person.

2. One can’t help falling in love if h/she meets the right person.

3. "Every time we are near each other, we get a funny feeling inside" is a good sign of love.

4. One doesn’t "fall in love," it has to be achieved.

5. The wish to be with someone constantly is a good sign of love.

6. Perfect love means one is always satisfied with one’s partner.

7. Marriage for convenience can be successful.

8. One can experience true love only once.

9. True love is not based at all on physical attraction.

10. People in love are often oblivious to their surroundings.

11. Problems always work out when two people are really in love.

12. Love usually makes the heart beat faster.

13. The strength of your feelings toward each other demonstrates the fact that you were made for each other.

14. Love can develop after marriage.

15. People do not need to have a long engagement if they are meant for each other.

16. True love lasts forever.

17. Love sometimes gives one a sick feeling.

18. When in love, it is hard to see the other’s faults.

19. A loss of appetite usually accompanies true love.

20. Love is an all-or-nothing feeling; there is no in-between.

21. When in love, one should just love and not reason why.

22. One in love will never be bored.

23. One shouldn’t strive to maintain love.

24. Marriage requires hard work in order to succeed.

25. Love will find a way.

26. If it’s true love, one won’t need to actively seek the other.

27. Happiness is inevitable in true love.

28. Love doesn’t happen; it’s learned.

29. People in love are always considerate.

30. It’s love if it makes you feel good.

31. You really fall in love just once in a lifetime.

Source: This scale is a modified form of the "Dean’s Romanticism Scale," constructed by the late Dr. Dwight G. Dean. Dr. Dean presented this scale in a paper read at The Groves Conference on Marriage and the Family, The Ohio State University, Columbus, Ohio, April 4, 1960.

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               How Satisfying is Your Relationship?

1. How well does your partner meet your needs?

A        B         C        D     E

Poorly       Average        Extremely Well

2. In general, how satisfied are you with your relationship?

    A      B          C       D        E 

Unsatisfied    Average    Extremely Satisfied

3. How good is your relationship compared to most?

   A      B      C      D      E

Poor         Average     Excellent

4. How often do you wish you hadn’t gotten in this relationship?

    A      B      C      D       E

Never        Average     Very Often

5. To what extent has your relationship met your original expectations?

       A      B          C      D      E

Hardly at All     Average       Completely

6. How much do you love your partner?

  A      B         C        D      E

Not Much    Average      Very Much

7. How many problems are there in your relationship?

     A      B       C      D      E

Very Few     Average     Very Many

Source: Susan S. Hendrick. "A generic Measure of relationship satisfaction." Journal of Marriage and the Family, 1988, Vol. 50, 93-98. Used by permission.